RELATIONSHIP NO, RELATING, YES!I CALL IT RELATING. YOU CAN RELATE, BUT THERE IS NO NEED TO CREATE ANY BONDAGE, THERE IS ON NEED TO CREATE ANY MARRIAGE. YOU CAN RELATE WITH SOMEBODY, YOU CAN RELATE TO THE SAME PERSON YOUR WHOLE LIFE, BUT TOMORROW REMAINS OPEN, IT IS NOT CLOSED. TOMORROW IS NOT SETTLED TODAY, YOU CANNOT TAKE IT FOR GRANTED; TOMORROW YOU MAY FEEL LIKE SHARING WITH THE SAME PERSON, THE SAME PERSON MAY LIKE SHARING OR MAY NOT LIKE SHARING. EVEN IF ONE OF THHE TWO DECIDEDS NOT TO SHARE, THEN YOU SAY GOOD-BUY TO EACH OTHER WITH GREAT GRATITUDE BECAUSE ALL THAT JOY AND ALL THAT HAS HAPPENED BEFORE ANJD ALL THAT HAS TRANSPIRED BEFORE ONE IS GRATEFUL FOR. WITH NO GRUDGE, WITH NO CIMPLAINT, WITH NO QUARREL., YOU SIMPLY DEPART. YOU KNOW, “OUR WAYS ARE PARTING NOW, WE MAY NOT MEET AGAIN.” SO YOU DEPART WITH A SONG IN THE HEART, WITH A SMILE ON THE LIPS; WITH A HUG, WITH A KISS, YOU DEPART. YOU DEPART IN DEEP FRIENDLESS. IT IS NOT A DIVORCE BECAUSE THERE HAS NOT BEEN ANY MARRIAGE AT ALL IN THE FIRST PLACE. YOU WERE NOT BOUND TO EACH OTHER. YOU HAD ALWAYS BEEN FREE, YOU HAD ALWAYS REMAINED INDIVIDUALS.TWO INDIVIDUALS RELATING REMAIN INDIVIDUALS TWO INDIVIDUALS; TWO INDIVIDUALS GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIPS LOSE THEIR INDIVIDUALITY. THEY BECOME A COUPLE, AND TO BE A COUPLE IS AN UGLY THING. THAT MEANS YOU HAVE LOST YOUR FREEDOM, YOU ARE NO MORE YOURSELF; THE OTHER IS ALSO NO MORE HIMSELF OR HERSELF. BOTH HAVE LOST THEIR FREEDOM AND NOBODY HAS GAINED ANYTHING OUT OF IT.THAT’S WHY SARTRE SAYS, “THE OTHER IS HELL.” “BUT STILL I WOULD LIKE TO REMIND YOU: IT IS NOT TH OTHER IT IS THE DESIRE FOR THE OTHER. WHEN YOU HAVE UNDERSTOOD THE FUTILITY OF DESIRE, THE UTTER STUPIDITY OF DESIRE, THEN YOU RELATE IN A TOTALLY DIFFERENT WAYS; A QUALITIVE CHANGE HAPPEN TO YOU. YOU ARE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF; YOU ARE NOT SEEKING HAPPINESS THROUGH THE OTHER. YOU ARE SO HAPPY THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE IT WITH SOMEBODY, THAT’S WHY YOU RELATE. RELATIONSHIP ORIGINATE IN MISERY, RELATING ORIGINATE IS BLISS.
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